Am I alone in this or other couples experience the same? Tell me if you experience this, ok?
Why is it that people, be married or not, who live together for quite sometime tend to forget, even impossible to remember details of shared conversation?
One evening, seated on the sofa [not side by side though because since we had PUGngit (Charlie) he's always seated in our middle...he has decided that it's his rightful place 
] I opened my mouth to start one of those conversations. You know like this:
Me: what time are we leaving tomorrow for ******? You didn’t forget, right?
Him: how could I’ve forgotten, we never had such agreement. (not even looking at me but at the tele)
Me: What?! You told me you’re taking a day off so that we can spend time together and go to ******! You even suggested that we do this!! (by this time, my nose is flapping and fire starts to come out)
Him: I never told you that!
whaaapppppaaaakkk!! (no I didn’t hit my husband, but my forehead)
We continued back and forth until my voice raised a few octaves higher, so thin it could shatter your eyeglasses. And on that note, I devised a plan on the spot that would I thought solve this problem, because yes, it is becoming a problem because my husband tends to forget his OWN WORDS. I said, each important conversation in the future, even a simple thing like when he takes a receipt from me, I will write it down on my agenda- of course detailed- and he has to sign each time I present it to him. He laughed. Grrrr! My nose flapped again!! I said I was serious and will not have any of his ” I never said that! ” or “I’ve never done that! ”
It is rather frustrating whenever this happens because I can remember the details while he really honestly couldn’t. Not that his having memory lapses but he works hard, believe it or not almost always during his waking hours, his brain is in constant work mode that nothing else matters unless I step in. I guess that’s my job to give our marriage its balance. Otherwise, WWIII na!
We also constantly give each other instructions. At the back of our heads maybe it’s our way of taking ‘revenge’ when one has commited a booboo. *lol* , revenge with L-O-V-E. Instructions like: “ Put the wc seat down after using it” or “Be sure to close the door and all windows behind you before leaving the house” then see whose brain would delete part or at times the entire instruction! Marital communication short-circuits, I once read on a magazine.
But but but! without this I can honestly say, married life, MY married life is boring. I actually get a kick out of this ( sometimes, ha! ha! ) especially when I turn out right (and pout when wrong.)
Like them, I want us to be. Ika nga ni tita Sharon:
“Kung tayo ay matanda na, sana’y d tayo magbago
Kailanman, nasaan man ito ang pangarap ko
so on and so on…
KAHIT MAPUTI NA ANG BUHOK KOOOOOOOOOOO (sustain ang ‘Ko’ )
KAHIT MAPUTI NA ANG BUHOK KO.” *smile*
Have a good week, you all!
Magdala
cheh said
July 30 2007 @ 3:10 pm
In our case,ako naman si miss limot mano naman kasing multi tasking lagi si inday,laging bwizi kaya pati utak bwizi din
Warm regards from U fahla! he said okies na sa debut mo neks yer mamah! o hayan type ko na d2 bago ko malimutan
telay said
July 30 2007 @ 8:58 pm
heto ako pag nagkakaganyan si Fafa T.
hehe wawa naman 
thekya nangangaba ako, sa takbo ng mundong ito, kung aabot pa kami sa ganyang MAS maputi pa ang hokbu boo hoo…sana lang we’ll all stay healthy; it is fearsome otherwise, this ageing… 
rhada said
July 30 2007 @ 10:42 pm
hay naku, mismo. kasi tayong mga babae ay detail oriented, we remember everything, hindi gaya ng mga lalake.
avoid talking with him lalo na kapag importanteng bagay while he’s watching TV, or reading book or nasa computer…make sure na nasa iyo ang 100% attention nya kapag may importante kang sasabihin. minsan kasi ako kapag nasa computer tapos yung mga bata may hinihingi sa akin at ayaw kong paistorbo, sasabihin ko lang “OO”…ni wala akong kamalay-malay kung ano ang inoohan ko. later on, nakukunsumi sila sa akin dahil hindi ko na maalala hahaha.
sardonicnell said
August 1 2007 @ 6:52 pm
i often asked myself, why men do this? (as if i’m an excemption to the rule noh! :lol:) is it selective hearing, temporary amnesia or pretending to be nonchalant?
btw, thanks so much for the blog visit and the bday greeting. that was very sweet and kind of you. God bless !
galit na galit sa lamok said
August 2 2007 @ 7:03 am
anu sabi mo??? may lumalabas ng apoy sa ilong mo ngayon????!!! aba’y hahantingin ka ng FBI nyan at gagawin kang pampatay sa kalaban. magtagutago ka na at delikado na existence mo nyan.
ikaw talaga, lagi kang naiisahan ni Hans-am. nagkukunyarikunyarianlang yan na nalilimutan yung date nyo kasi sawa na sa kakakain ng patat yan. at atat lang yan pumunta sa thailand kaya dun nya nirereserve yung natitira nyang energy.
mag-inagt ka sa bermuda triangle jan sa living room mo at nung nanjan ako at nakabalandra sa sofa eh pakiramdam ko nga parang may humihigop sa pwet ko tapos may sound ng tidal wave pa kong narinig, o baka naman epekto lang saken yon nung kinain kong sabaw ng meatballs na may sangkatutak na celery at kung anu-ano pang damu-damo na niluto mo? di kaya?
hayyy naku, ang lamuk lamok dito!!!! pinapapak ako ng sangkaterbang lamokes. pagbalik ko ng osaka nito paknit-paknit na yung balat ko sa kagat ng mga dambuhalang lamok.
o sige, kinamusta lang kita jan sa bermuda triangle na kinasasadlakan mo. alis na ko at mag-iispray pa ko ng muriatic acid sa balat para matodas lahat ng lamokes na nangangagat saken.
babush!
thess said
August 2 2007 @ 9:03 am
CHEH: malilimutin din ako pero kailangan attentive ako sa sinasabi ni Hans kasi mas malilimutin ito! Mahirap na, baka kung pareho kaming may sakit na kalimot, baka pareho naming makalimutan magsalawal o di ba, nakakahiya!
TELAY: eh bakit nisusuntok mo sarili mo at hindi si fafah T?
naku tita telay, wag ka ganyan, think positive, sabi nga ni tinkerbelyas he he.
RHADA: naku inday, tutut yan! lagi ko sinasabi sa asawa ko “FOCUS man, focus!” he he.
buti hindi nase-sequester yang computer mo, ha ha!
SARDONICELL: exempted ka
hay naku, all of the above na mentioned mo!
Enjoy your ‘new year’ and stay happy :-)
GGL: nakuuu pag nakikita kita, lumalaki apoy sa ilong ko grrrr!! Naku, patat boy nga si fafah, lalo na may pindasaus (peanut sauce..btw, nagamit mo na ba yung peanut sauce sa dyanfan? )
indaaaaaaaayyy, excited na kami for our trip, it’s been a long time!!
ingat dyan, at MALIGO KA KASI PARA HINDI KA LAMUKIN!!
sha said
August 2 2007 @ 7:47 pm
thess i still owe u the meme been to busy
naku day… over na ako sa married life hahaha
but i know how you feel…. sige smile lang or kaya WWWIIInga hahaha
love to your hubby