Am I alone in this or other couples experience the same? Tell me if you experience this, ok?
Why is it that people, be married or not, who live together for quite sometime tend to forget, even impossible to remember details of shared conversation?
One evening, seated on the sofa [not side by side though because since we had PUGngit (Charlie) he's always seated in our middle...he has decided that it's his rightful place 
] I opened my mouth to start one of those conversations. You know like this:
Me: what time are we leaving tomorrow for ******? You didn’t forget, right?
Him: how could I’ve forgotten, we never had such agreement. (not even looking at me but at the tele)
Me: What?! You told me you’re taking a day off so that we can spend time together and go to ******! You even suggested that we do this!! (by this time, my nose is flapping and fire starts to come out)
Him: I never told you that!
whaaapppppaaaakkk!! (no I didn’t hit my husband, but my forehead)
We continued back and forth until my voice raised a few octaves higher, so thin it could shatter your eyeglasses. And on that note, I devised a plan on the spot that would I thought solve this problem, because yes, it is becoming a problem because my husband tends to forget his OWN WORDS. I said, each important conversation in the future, even a simple thing like when he takes a receipt from me, I will write it down on my agenda- of course detailed- and he has to sign each time I present it to him. He laughed. Grrrr! My nose flapped again!! I said I was serious and will not have any of his ” I never said that! ” or “I’ve never done that! ”
It is rather frustrating whenever this happens because I can remember the details while he really honestly couldn’t. Not that his having memory lapses but he works hard, believe it or not almost always during his waking hours, his brain is in constant work mode that nothing else matters unless I step in. I guess that’s my job to give our marriage its balance. Otherwise, WWIII na!
We also constantly give each other instructions. At the back of our heads maybe it’s our way of taking ‘revenge’ when one has commited a booboo. *lol* , revenge with L-O-V-E. Instructions like: “ Put the wc seat down after using it” or “Be sure to close the door and all windows behind you before leaving the house” then see whose brain would delete part or at times the entire instruction! Marital communication short-circuits, I once read on a magazine.
But but but! without this I can honestly say, married life, MY married life is boring. I actually get a kick out of this ( sometimes, ha! ha! ) especially when I turn out right (and pout when wrong.)
Like them, I want us to be. Ika nga ni tita Sharon:
“Kung tayo ay matanda na, sana’y d tayo magbago
Kailanman, nasaan man ito ang pangarap ko
so on and so on…
KAHIT MAPUTI NA ANG BUHOK KOOOOOOOOOOO (sustain ang ‘Ko’ )
KAHIT MAPUTI NA ANG BUHOK KO.” *smile*
Have a good week, you all!
Magdala
